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Change & Grief Co-Exist

I had a session with my coach yesterday, which by the way has consistently been one of the best investments I've ever made. Just having someone hold space for you to listen completely, ask powerful questions, and anchor you in inspired action, while lovingly holding you accountable has been one of the greatest gifts I've given myself.


A few hours up until the session I had a tightness in my stomach that I couldn't quite put my finger on. Just the day before I was tenaciously expressing gratitude for what is present in my life, where I know God/Universe/Source/God is taking me, and how my life could have turned out. 


How could I shift so quickly? 

And why didn't I know what this was?

It wasn't until halfway into the session, mainly filled with tear-filled oblivion, that I realized this churning in my stomach was grief associated with change - the change currently on the horizon and the change that I can feel is coming on a soul level.


I was jarred by this since my life has been one constant ball of change for as far back as I can remember. And although I have gotten used to change, each level of change requires a different level of emotion because each time change happens it is technically new. This causes great discomfort, especially because of the grief associated with what we have to leave behind in the process - no matter how much peace we have about it.


You can imagine that by the end of the session I felt immensely better. Just naming it and proclaiming that I would allow myself to go through the motions, however they presented, was healing.


So as we brace ourselves for letting go of all that needs to stay in 2023 to make room for aligned expansion in 2024, let's allow ourselves to grieve. It's all there to guide us.


Speaking of guides, my debut book, Me Too: A Therapist's Journey to Heal, Find Liberation, & Joy has an entire chapter devoted to the process of grief, including getting through a break-up. So whether you have experienced complex trauma or not, there is something in the pages for us all, including trauma allies. You can get the book, including an e-book now (yeah!), at Barnes & Nobles & Amazon.


And on that change note, I'll be hosting my first international retreat in Bali with my girl Kena Hodges, not to mention, a FREE Global Abundance Summit which has been pushed back to January 8.


And if you ever want to explore working together, click here to schedule a free consultation.


Cheers to honoring it all,

Demarra West


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